Okay, so I failed the first day. I can’t say I am surprised. This is what happens when you give up an “addiction.” I caught myself as I was chastising my 12 yo. I not only pointed out what she was doing wrong but complaining about her actions as well. When I realized this of course it was done but it helped temper my tone for the rest of the day. I also realized I had not informed her of this challenge. Who better to help keep me accountable than my family- especially the kids? I’m glad that I have you to help keep me accountable but I know I also need pointers from those who have done this before. In researching, I came across this helpful resource:
1. START BY DEFINING WHAT A COMPLAINT IS (Complaint vs Observation)
It’s cold outside”.- Observation
‘It’s cold outside and I hate living in this place.’ – Complaint
How does the statement make you feel? Does your chest tighten slightly or is there tension in your shoulders? These aren’t diagnostic but they are helpful pointers. You know yourself and how your body reacts. You just have to trust it.
2. TRACK HOW OFTEN YOU COMPLAIN AND WHAT ABOUT
Don’t be shocked if you count into the hundreds in just a few hours. Nuff said.
3. SEPARATE YOURSELF FROM CHRONIC COMPLAINERS
Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man, lest you learn his ways, and find a snare for yourself (Proverbs 22:24-25).
4. TURN COMPLAINTS INTO SOLUTIONS
This is called “positive complaining” or “effective complaining. In other words, work to fix what’s vexing you.
5. USE THE “BUT-POSITIVE” TECHNIQUE
“I don’t like driving to work, but I’m thankful at least I can drive and I even have a job.”
6. CHANGE “HAVE TO” TO “GET TO”