Proverbs 28:1 New Living Translation (NLT)
28 The wicked run away when no one is chasing them,
but the godly are as bold as lions.
If you know me, you know I usually don’t have a problem with confrontation. I pride myself in being a straight forward person and appreciate that in return. But sometimes, I fall short.
What does that have to do with complaining?
Here’s a story –
Once upon a time, there was a mommy blogger. She wore other hats as well – wife, friend, daughter, sister, etc. Thankfully, she works for herself and has a flexible schedule. However, this schedule is easily filled to the rim and then some with responsibilities! She gets overwhelmed and at times frustrated.
Days and even weeks go by of missed hot yoga classes.
This mommy so desperately wants to participate in hot yoga on a regular basis. But instead, she allows the schedule to dictate and complains about it far and near.
“If my husband would just do this, then I could have time.”
“If the kids would just do what I tell them and when I tell them, I could have time.”
“If the soccer coach would just stop changing the times of practice, I could have time.”
If, if, if
If only she would confront the issue instead of complaining and attacking, she actually would have time. The fruit of her complaints are contempt, ineffectiveness and push back.
There’s another great story about someone who ran from confrontation. It’s about a prophet named Elijah. He’s not alone. Moses, Jonah, Hagar, et al did as well. His story gives us a picture of how when someone runs away and complains, ends up in the wilderness and how confrontation is the way out.
I’m thankful for his and other’s stories. They show us we can confront our problems instead of just complaining about them.
So, how is this mommy confronting her issue without attacking her loved ones?
She’s using pointers from her own blog Day 6 Confessions of an Analyzer. “What could I/you do that would make a difference that requires no one’s permission other than my/your own?”
She is setting boundaries, consistent boundaries. She informs the loved ones and any one else affected of the boundaries. She is setting expectations of herself. She is open to other classes that may work in her schedule, playing outside, or taking a walk.
She does not want to be in the wilderness, nor for you.
Be well, Beloved!