Day 14 – How-tos


1 Thessalonians 5:18King James Version (KJV)

18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.

Hello Beloved,

Yesterday, we touched on replacing complaints with gratitude and the beneficial side effects.

Today, is more practical.

How to show gratitude may be common sense for some. I’m posting pointers for the rest of us. There’s no need to try to incorporate all into your lifestyle. Pick a few or maybe just one and make it a part of you. I have a journal and while it’s an effective tool, I need to be more cognizant during the day and not just my once daily logging.

1. Gratitude Journal – I enter a list of things while others write a narrative. Whatever your fancy, just get started. Many will say keep it in one place (apps are good for that). However, the act of writing has benefit. Plus, it can be a treat to come across a gratitude note while cleaning the junk drawer. That’s what someone told me anyway. Be flexible with yourself. It’s gratitude journaling after all!

2. Proactive gratitude  – This reminds me of when I was a little girl and would say my prayers at night. You know “now I lay me down to sleep.” When I was done reciting that morbid prayer about dying before I woke, I would pray for all the people and things I was grateful for. So basically, do that without the death part.

3. Reactive gratitude – This falls under the “Boy am I glad that didn’t happen to me” category.

4. Prayer. (That’s a period after prayer).

5. Remember The Bad – We have all had bad times and some residue from those moments may linger or still hurt like ____. But, you’re still here. You made it this far.

6. Set a gratitude alarm/gratitude jar- I have alarms and reminders for everything else so why not for this? When the alarm goes off take a moment to think of things you’re thankful for and if you have a piece of paper handy, write it down. You can then place it in a jar.

7. Sensory Appreciation – I have to remind myself to stop and enjoy the golden hour of chaos in my home. It’s the time after school when the house is full of life and activity. This child needs to go to dance and that one needs to go to soccer and hubby has a late meeting and I will not miss hot yoga again. Sometimes, I actually remember to take a moment and appreciate all that I’m blessed with and will never deserve. I’ll take in the smells, colors, sound of laughter, and grab a child for a hug. It’s simply delicious!

Below is a gratitude quiz. Feel free to take it or not. Either way, I’m thankful you visited my blog today.

Be well, Beloved!


Day 10 – Simplify


Ecclesiastes 7:29 

God made man simple: man’s complex problems are of his own devising.

Hello Beloved,

Every December at Elevation Church, we pick a word for the new year that represents our focus and petition to God. For 2017, my family’s word is Simplify.  Remember on Day 7 when I wrote about “an aspect of my life I’ve been working to improve for 4 years?” That aspect is to simplify which surprisingly has been difficult to do. I’ve often blamed being a wife, mother, doctor, volunteer, etc for my complicated life. However, where I’ve fallen short is in trying too hard. I put “fail safes” in place to make my life more simple. No one loves to plan more than I do! Now, I’m not saying I’ll stop planning but let my life be driven by simplicity and not by G.R.I.P.E.S.: 





Expectations of others


How did we get here? 

This entire exercise has been about complaint attenuation. So much of what I complain about are things I should have never entertained. Why do I have a ridiculous amount of emails? Why is my To Do list a mile long? Why would I let a newly erupted “emergency” keep me from missing hot yoga again? There are more questions like these I need to address and put to bed. 

How do we simplify?

The scripture Ecclesiastes 7:29, tells us how to live simply. By simply living as He made us to live. We add to it only to go from simplicity to duplicity by functioning under a facade of control. Ironically, it weighs us down and wears us out. This is insanity (nod to Susan Powter)! He is omnipresent, omnipotent, and omniscient. I can tap into His presence at anytime! So why not do it all the time? Why choose man’s complex over God’s simple? He sent his son so that the gap between God and man would no longer be. He sent his son so I could be free to run to him for any and everything. He sent his son to carry the weight. 

Matthew 11:28-30 New King James Version (NKJV)

28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

Be well, Beloved!