Day 2 – The Mulligan

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Okay, so I failed the first day. I can’t say I am surprised. This is what happens when you give up an “addiction.” I caught myself as I was chastising my 12 yo. I not only pointed out what she was doing wrong but complaining about her actions as well. When I realized this of course it was done but it helped temper my tone for the rest of the day. I also realized I had not informed her of this challenge. Who better to help keep me accountable than my family- especially the kids? I’m glad that I have you to help keep me accountable but I know I also need pointers from those who have done this before. In researching, I came across this helpful resource:

1. START BY DEFINING WHAT A COMPLAINT IS (Complaint vs Observation)
It’s cold outside”.- Observation 

‘It’s cold outside and I hate living in this place.’ – Complaint 

How does the statement make you feel? Does your chest tighten slightly or is there tension in your shoulders? These aren’t diagnostic but they are helpful pointers. You know yourself and how your body reacts. You just have to trust it. 

2. TRACK HOW OFTEN YOU COMPLAIN AND WHAT ABOUT
Don’t be shocked if you count into the hundreds in just a few hours. Nuff said.

3. SEPARATE YOURSELF FROM CHRONIC COMPLAINERS
Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man, lest you learn his ways, and find a snare for yourself (Proverbs 22:24-25).

4. TURN COMPLAINTS INTO SOLUTIONS
This is called “positive complaining” or “effective complaining. In other words, work to fix what’s vexing you. 

5. USE THE “BUT-POSITIVE” TECHNIQUE
“I don’t like driving to work, but I’m thankful at least I can drive and I even have a job.”

6. CHANGE “HAVE TO” TO “GET TO”

List adapted from: https://www.fastcompany.com/3042951/how-to-be-a-success-at-everything/what-its-like-to-go-without-complaining-for-a-month

This is both challenge and process but I’m encouraged and hope you are too. If and when there are slip ups, let’s agree to forgive, take a Mulligan and jump back in. We can do this by His grace!

 

 

 

21 day no complaint challenge

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Philippians 2:14-16New Living Translation (NLT)

14 Do everything without complaining and arguing, 15 so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people. 16 Hold firmly to the word of life; then, on the day of Christ’s return, I will be proud that I did not run the race in vain and that my work was not useless.

I’m usually not one to join in on one of the “challenges” going around. I do enjoy watching others participate with ice bucket, U name it, and mannequin being some of my favs. Well, today I started the no complaint challenge. Hopefully, others, like everyone that reads this, will join me. Don’t take that the wrong way. I need the accountability and positivity and to share that with you. So let’s put down some guidelines to give this challenge focus. 

All silent and vocal complaints are applicable. 

1. No getting mad or frustrated or annoyed with YOURSELF.
2. No griping at your pet, children, spouse, friends, parents, strangers.
2. No judging others, even if they are incompetent or at fault.
3. No expressing displeasure about the weather.
4. No getting annoyed about the news.
5. No agreeing to another person’s complaint. That’s like being accessory to complaining.
6. No fussing about electronics or wifi or online apps misbehaving.
7. No griping at your pet, children, spouse, friends, parents, strangers.
8. No feeling sorry for yourself or swearing even if you stub your toe or jam your finger.
9. No complaining about your work, the stupid co-workers or the horrid boss.
10. No criticizing anything, anywhere, anytime, in any capacity.

If you forget the rules, just remember this: Just Don’t Complain!

Can’t tell if it’s a complaint? Like, it could be a valid point or something. Quick test: What would you call it if someone else did it or said it? Let your spouse, a child or the look on your pet’s face be the deciding factor. If it sounds, smells and feels like a complaint, it probably is one.

rules adapted from http://www.prolificliving.com/stay-happy-stop-complaining/

During this 21 day challenge I will keep you abreast of my challenges and hopefully triumphs. Feel free to share yours. Be well, Beloved!