Day 8 – Why Do I Keep Touching the Stove?


As a child, like most others, I was taught to dangers of touching hot things.

Mom: Mayisha, don’t touch that eye. It’ll burn you!

Me: Ok.

When the food was cooking, I had little to no interest in approaching. I mean the eye was glowing red hot and looked to almost want to come and get me. But when turned off and the pot removed along with my mother’s presence and attention, it seemed to beckon. “Touch me, touch me. I’m not hot anymore. Don’t you want to see for yourself? I promise I won’t hurt you now. Look! I’m loosing my glow.”

So what do I do?

I touch it.

And what happens?

It burns me.

It hurts me.

It teaches me.

And what happens next?

My mother tends to me.

She covers to heal.

She reminds me of her words.


My curiosity was and still is a gift. The way I viewed the situation was problematic. I did not recognize the danger.  I did not trust the instruction. I did not accept love’s “constraints”.  

For too long, I believed only bold, red, hot “supersins” were dangerous and that the enemy is dressed as someone in a red suit with two horns and a tail. In reality, he is far more subtle and successful in promoting a salubrious nature. He is likened to a charismatic leader clothed in divisive rhetoric, false humility, comparisons, and judgeful mentality. He is the accuser of the brethren, tricking us to see ourselves as deficient. When that occurs, we look to false gods for answers. Addictions develop while our faith wanes.

This is how we complicate our lives. This is how we lose focus. God wants to change how we view things.

Romans 12:2 New Living Translation (NLT)

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.


He does not want to change us or others.

Psalm 139:14 King James Version (KJV)

14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.


He has inundated us with His grace. All deficiencies were nullified on the cross.

Ephesians 2:8-9 New Living Translation (NLT)

God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.


All these exchanges teach me to have faith in God.  Faith in who He made me to be. Faith in His instruction. Faith in His love.

Living simply means learning my standards are not His. I learn my standards are arbitrary and His are obtainable only through His son. I learn that following my standards leads to defeat and to follow His son leads to victory in this life and the next. I learn that throughout life I will continue to “touch stoves” and that His grace and word will always cover, tend, and heal.

Be well, Beloved.











Day 21 – We made it!



Matthew 5:16 English Standard Version (ESV) In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that[a] they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.


It’s day 21 and we’ve made it to the end. I pondered and prayed over what to write about. All I want to do is celebrate with you. As usual custom, we’ll celebrate by looking at how far we’ve come – a recap. 

Day 1 – Rules were laid out and the challenge began.

Day 2- The challenge proved to be formidable and helpful pointers were shared.

Day 3- Focus shifted from not complaining to more positive thinking. The challenge was also renamed “The Butterfly Effect.”

Day 4 – Opportunities to be grateful get eclipsed by complaining. 

Day 5 – The only way we make it through this or any other challenge is to have the faith to trust God during the process. He and He alone is the agent of change. All we have to do is cast our cares.

Day 6 – This was one of the most helpful days for me being a natural critique/analyzer. Having knack for seeing what’s out of place is a gift that can be abused and lead to a negative complaining lifestyle. The question: “What could I/you do that would make a difference that requires no one’s permission other than my/your own?” helps curtail that.

Day 7 – We complain when we think we know the answer or a better way. It closes us off other points of view thereby stunting our growth.

Day 8 –  Grace needs to be extended to others and ourselves.

Day 9 – Acceptance quells complaints.

Day 10 – Some of our complaining stems from taking on too many tasks.

Day 11 – When everyone’s roles and talents are respected, we allow each other to flourish in our uniqueness instead of complain about oddities. 

Day 12- Complaining negatively affects our health.

Day 13 – Gratefulness positively affect our health.

Day 14 – How-tos for gratefulness.

Day 15 – Confronting issues without complaining or attacking people.

Day 16 – How to use reconciliation as the goal to confront someone.

Day 17 – Complaints can be avoided by not setting unrealistic expectations.

Day 18 – If we’re going to complain, take it to God in prayer. Seek Him and his answer in the word.

Day 19 – Colloquialisms and scriptures placed on pictures were used to inspire or amuse.

Day 20 – Life has difficult moments. We can look to biblical examples of how to deal and take control of situations influence by setting an ” I’m not going to focus on this any longer” quit date. 

Day 21 – Celebration and recap!

Be well, Beloved!